Lurking on other people’s social media accounts is such a normal part of today’s society and its honestly sort of terrifying. People constantly know where you are, who you’re with, what you’ve said about something, and things as scary as finding out where you live or what car you drive are so easy to get access to. I can’t even keep track of the times I’ve recognized someone’s car or apartment buildings from their pictures when I wasn’t even trying to. This year I’ve permanently deleted more than a few of my own accounts and the ones I’ve left I haven’t left access to people who don’t need to know all of the personal details of my life. I’m also making it a personal goal to stop checking up on people who don’t matter to me. There’s absolutely no reason for me to do so and it only gives them influence over my life and none of them are important enough to have that sort of power over anything having to do with me. It’s none of your business what other people are saying about you and its not like it matters anyway. So here’s to all of you that still come here hoping to see that I’m struggling, or having an off day, or just generally hoping to see me post the important people and things about my life: I wish you the best and I hope you can find it in yourself to live your own life instead of constantly looking through other peoples’. I won’t be using this anymore. If you’re still interested in keeping contact with me feel free to message me and we can figure something out. For the rest of you 👋🏽

bye

thexfiles:

*wakes up* yikes

blvvdhoney:

selfcareafterrape:

With abusive mothers.

With people they no longer even call by that name.

You? do not have to feel guilty about not loving her.

You? Do not have to feel guilty about loving her.

You? Do not have to feel guilty about having conflicting feelings.

You are not required to call or write this weekend.

You are not required to show up or give her a gift

but also-

you are still valid if you do. Whether because you want to or because you feel you need to for safety or any other reason.

You are valid. You do not have to be grateful in spite of what they did. You do not have to forgive just because of who she is. Family isn’t always the strongest bond.

and you don’t have to pretend it is or feel shame for your feelings.

Take care of yourself, okay?

theverywvrst